#1 I don’t need make-up
If the statement above is made and left right there, you are probably being really honest and really don’t need make-up. If instead, it goes along these lines, “I don’t need make-up. I can spend a whole day without it, just not my eyeliner, mascara, press powder and gloss…” you definitely don’t really think you can live without make-up. We all know there has been a growing number of men who prefer women to not wear make-up because they find it more attractive. Some women like this while others hate it.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with wearing make-up. The problem is why you wear make-up. Some people’s almost mechanical-response is, “It enhances my beauty” or “It hides this and that” or “It brings out my favourite features more”. While this may be the case, if you cannot go a single day without wearing make-up, it is most likely because you think there’s something wrong with the way you look without it. We women are constantly trying to look gorgeous and there is nothing wrong with this even if you are convinced that you are doing it for yourself.
But the more dependent you are on make-up, the more weird you look in the mirror without it. And believe me, the more accustomed to something your mind becomes, anything different from that is then strange, or even ugly. Watch how it happens with children who have coloured princesses hair blond in their colouring books all their lives, and the moment one girl colours it green, everyone’s face scrunches because it’s unfamiliar- ugly.
#2 I cannot date a guy who’s lighter skinned than me
This is so common among teens these days. If you’re white, you may not be too familiar with the reality and the background of the anti-light skin movement. Light-skinned black males have been made the primary targets of jokes that imply that they are immasculine. Immasculine is a slang term that describes something associated with women and not with men. Being a Seer, I tried to figure out where this sudden bitterness was coming from. Unsurprisingly, I remembered a time when women only found light-skinned guys attractive. The likes of Boris Kodjoe, Michael Ealy and Nollywood’s Van Vicker, excluding those like the Taye Diggs, Omar Epps and Chris Tucker. Suddenly the wheel turned and it seems the darker-skinned male’s popularity rose. The reason for this, and I can only speculate, goes deeper than simple preference. Some young women like to be the pleasant complement in the relationship. A “cute” couple is one where the one is darker than the other and the beauty of the relationship seems to come from the honour and “prestige” of being chosen by a lighter skinned person. I have often heard people say, “We can’t both be dark or both light,” and I don’t know about you but this smells like some deep personal issues to me.
#3 No delete it, I look so dark!
Once again, the black girl struggle continues. We are so obsessed with light skin that we don’t even realise the kind of messed up things we say. In the viewing of an Instagram picture, the school yearbook or in a random circle of friends huddled around a cell phone, at some point I guarantee you’ll hear, “Oh my gosh, who’s that dark person there”. Every time I hear that I look the person sternly in the eye and ask, “What’s wrong with being dark?” The response is often a sheepish silence and averting of the eyes, but unimpressed with the picture nevertheless. In instances where the person responds, “Nothing, it’s just that I’m not dark, so it looks ugly,” I am not even going to spell out what’s wrong with that statement alone.